Are You a Controller?

“O, it is excellent to have a giant’s strength, but it is tyrannous to use it like a giant.”
William Shakespeare

Why are we so obsessed with power and control?

Some of us became leaders because we want the power that is associated with that.  We don’t like others telling us what to do, we want to use that power to control others around us. It’s a right!  It’s a tool of leadership!  It’s something we hold closely to our leadership position, wielding it when we want something to go our way.

Is this you?  Do you find yourself trying to control everything?  Do you find yourself controlling things that really are none of your business?  Do you take home that desire to “be in control” and use it on your family & friends?

A verse I’ve been thinking about lately comes from Matthew 6:33 (ESV)  “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”  The Message says it this way:  “Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions.  Don’t worry about missing out.  You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.

We want to control everything around us, so that we will get all that we want and all that we deserve.

Matthew 6 tells us to “Seek first HIS Kingdom”, then everything we need will be added to us.  It’s counter intuitive.  Instead of controlling everything around us, we need only focus on HIM.

Look at the next verse, Matthew 6:34:  “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself…

For controllers, this is really difficult, but why don’t you try it anyway?

Two simple steps:

#1)  Seek first HIS Kingdom.

Make it your priority to do what HE wants you to do.  To be WHO HE wants you to be. Don’t try to control it, just BE.

#2)  Don’t Worry!

You can’t control everything. Do what you can do.  Allow God to do what HE does best.  Someone once told me years ago, “You do what’s possible, and He’ll do the impossible.”  Let go. Stop controlling!

Now, can you live like that?  This is what HE wants from each of us.

Try it today.


Russ Cline has wide experience in church, mission, and global leadership. Beginning in the local church in Southern California, then moving to Ecuador for 16 years to be a part of launching three distinct organizations, Russ is now back in Southern California working with Extreme Response International in providing leadership coaching and organizational development to leaders around the world. Russ' passion is to come alongside organizations and to help them identify areas of growth, focus and change, resulting in greater impact and effectiveness. Russ graduated from Azusa Pacific University with a degree in Business and Christian Education and completed his graduate work in Organizational Development. He has been married for 31 years to Gina, and they have three kids: Rheanna, Riley and Raylin. To learn more about Russ, visit: Write directly to Russ at: twitter: leadwithruss, leadermundial

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