Basic Coaching Habit #1: Listen with Grace


9747370-coaching34 Leaders from 10 countries joined together for four days and developed these “Basic Coaching Habits” for anyone asked to be a “coach”.  When coaching someone, we must:

#1)  Listen with Grace.  We need to be willing to listen to the other person without judgement or assumption. We must give the other person our full and undivided attention.

When a person comes to us because they feel they need our advice or help, it is a great compliment.  It signals that they trust us or respect us.

We need to LISTEN:  “to hear something; to pay attention”

With GRACE:  “mercy; divine love; protection”

We need to give them our full attention.  To do that, we need to follow these simple rules:

1)  Move away from anything that would distract us and keep us from listening to them.  Move away from our phone, computer screen, even separate ourselves from other people in the room. Turn our bodies toward them.  Face them.  Close a door if possible.  If we are too busy to escape distraction in our thoughts, then set another time to have the discussion.  We need to be able to really listen to them if we hope to help them in a meaningful way.

2) Keep our eyes on them and try to listen to every word they say. We should not be forming our answer while they are still talking.  Ask questions to clarify anything that causes us to guess, or anything we don’t understand.  We can’t assume anything. We need to make sure we understand what they are saying.  Maybe we will need to repeat back to them what we thought they said before we form our answer.  Make their time of talking an information gathering time for us.

3)  Don’t judge them.  Their problem may be embarrassing or difficult for them to admit or discuss. We need to make it easy to discuss it with us. We need to be aware of our body language, things like crossed arms, pulling back, facial expressions, and flares of anger or disappointment that may indicate disapproval. This does not mean we need to approve of their actions.  They will indicate whether they feel it was wrong or not.  they are probably talking with us because they know they were wrong or they already know where we stand.  Love them and listen to them.  Maybe we can help them.

They are coming to us because they need help.  Let’s be sure we listen to them so we can help them!

To track the 10 Habits, CLICK HERE

About

Dr. Ron Cline helps build the body of Christ around the world. His background as a pastor, educator, counselor, missionary and author gives him credibility and rapport with the many groups and individuals he and his wife, Barbara, minister to in various countries each year. After 7 years of pastoral ministry in Southern California, and ten years as the Dean at Azusa Pacific University, the Clines’ international service began in 1976 as a short-term opportunity when he agreed to pastor the English Fellowship Church in Quito, Ecuador for two years. Those two years stretched into six years. Following that he served as the president of HCJB World Radio, also in Ecuador, for 20 years. HCJB Global, now Reach Beyond, has media, health care, community and/or leadership development ministries in Latin America, Europe, Russia, North Africa/Middle East, Sub-Saharan Africa, and Asia Pacific. Ron and Barb currently serve as Global Ambassadors with Reach Beyond and live in Southern California after living 30 years abroad. They travel from Southern California throughout the world. For the last ten years they have been encouraging, coaching and working with leaders in Indonesia, Cambodia, China, Singapore, Malaysia, Nepal, Mongolia, India, Philippines, Thailand, Hong Kong, Solomon Islands, Western Samoa, Papua New Guinea, Tonga, Fiji, America Samoa, Australia, New Zealand, Central Asia, USA, Canada, Mexico, Cuba, Haiti, Ecuador, Russia, Malawi, Ivory Coast and South Africa.

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