COMMUNITY: 2 Are Better Than One

I was performing a wedding a couple of weeks ago, and I shared this verse with the newly married couple. It comes from Ecclesiastes and this is The Message translation, chapter 4 verses 9 – 12:

“It’s better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the word, share the wealth. And if one falls down, the other helps, but if there’s no one to help, tough!

Two in a bed warm each other. Alone, you shiver all night.

By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round-up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.”

This is a great passage to share with a newly married couple as it really is an encouragement to them that there’s strength and power in this union of 2 people.

I’ve been thinking about these verses as it relates to COMMUNITY.

We weren’t created to live a lone, isolated life. We were created to live in community with others. The ideas from the verse  “when one falls, the other helps” or “with a friend, you can face the worst” are powerful images of the importance of other people in our lives and in our COMMUNITY.

Who’s in your COMMUNITY?

Do you have people in your world that…

*You’re doing daily & regular life with?

*You’re depending on and who are depending on you?

*You’re working with to accomplish great things together?

*You’re counting on to pick you up with you fall? And you’re picking them up?


If you have a hard time defining your community, do these things:

•Make a list of the qualities of people you desire. Sometimes when you have the “wrong” people around you, it actually hurts you.

•Make a list of people in your life that fit these qualities.

•Be intentional with them. Ask them if they would be willing to walk and journey with you. Define what that might look like. (How often you communicate, how often you connect in person)

•Don’t focus on what others can do for you. Figure out how you can reciprocate and contribute in a positive way to their lives as well.

•Work at it. Building real community takes effort and maintaining this community takes real work. Do the work!

Start by defining one, then work towards a couple.

The passage from Ecclesiastes ends by saying, “can you round-up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.”

There’s strength in surrounding your life with people who are part of your COMMUNITY. Don’t take this for granted. Make it a crucial part of your life.


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