I heard a great message the other day about being “stuck”. It caused me to think about areas of my life where I might be a little “stuck”, and as I evaluated those areas, I found myself wondering why I continually get stuck in some of the same traps or same situations.
All of us feel stuck at one time or another: we aren’t content in our job or our role but we don’t think we can change; there’s a team member on our team that just drives us crazy, but we don’t think there’s anything we can do about it; we aren’t able to achieve some of our personal goals and we’re tired of failing over and over again; we are in a relationship that is struggling and we have no idea what to do. We’re stuck!
The problem with being stuck is that it often paralyzes us. We aren’t able to think clearly. Sometimes we panic. We don’t think rationally. We quit and don’t even try.
Mary Ann Bailey writes about 5 Bad Habits to Avoid in our blog on wetfeet.com.
Bailey believes that these 5 habits keep us from living how we really want to live. Read these, and do a self-inventory. Do you think these contribute to your feelings of being STUCK?
Habit #1) You Believe What You Think
“The average mind has about 60,000 thoughts a day and most of us believe about 99 percent of what we think.”
Some of these thoughts are true, and some of them we “think” are true, but they really have been put into our mind by other people, other circumstances and our past. When we believe all that we think, it can get us in trouble. Our thoughts might be holding us back.
Habit #2) You Blame Others for your Circumstances
“Realize that you are the only one who can truly take charge of the situation.”
You can’t go through life blaming others. There’s a point that you need to take control and make the change. It’s easy to get stuck thinking that everyone else is wrong and that there’s nothing you can do about it.
Habit #3) You Take Life Too Seriously
“Most of us were raised to believe that the key to success is hard work. Recently, that belief has been revised to include very long hours. I would like to challenge that belief with another old adage: ‘All work and no play makes Jack/Jill a dull person'”
We need to live our lives and we need to fill it with fun, laughter and creativity. We need to take time to enjoy the world around us and the people we do life with. Don’t take it all too seriously. Don’t be like the hamster on the wheel.
Habit #4) You Live Life in the Middle
“One of the most common ways people get stuck is by living their lives in the middle, rather than closer to the edge.”
Life in the middle is safe, but it’s also a little boring. It’s also crowded, because a lot of people like to live in the middle. Take some risk, move towards the edge. You’ll develop new perspectives and see new opportunities.
Habit #5) You Fall Prey to the Fear of the Unknown
“Fear is a powerful emotion. It protects us and keeps us from doing destructive things, yet it can also keep us from doing new and wonderful things.”
Don’t let fear keep you from experiencing life and new possibilities.
There will be times that we all feel “STUCK”. Don’t stay there. Figure out how to keep moving and sometimes this starts with identifying habits in your life that keep stopping you from moving forward!