34 Leaders from 10 countries joined together for four days and developed these “Basic Coaching Habits for anyone asked to be a “coach”. When coaching someone, we must:
#4) Practice Kindness. We have no reason to make anyone feel bad or guilty. Simple kindness goes a long way. Kindness can be defined as being FRIENDLY, GENEROUS and CONSIDERATE.
When did we become so cruel? Cruel can be defined as “willfully causing pain or suffering to others, or feeling no concern about them.” We live in a world where it’s easier to be cruel to people than to treat them with kindness.
If we take these 3 words and unpack them a little more, we find some simple action steps that we can use in any coaching situation, but also with anyone we happen to come across in the course of normal life!
#1) FRIENDLY. Being friendly is simply going out of your way to be kind, to be pleasant, to engage with another human being. Being friendly takes some effort because it usually demands some of our time. Learn to be more friendly. Smile more. Look for opportunities to let people know that you care.
#2) GENEROUS. You can be generous with both your time and your money. Don’t live your life hoarding what you have, but learn to share it freely. You don’t have to give beyond your means. Sometimes a small gesture is such a great example of kindness. You can be used to help others, so be looking for opportunities every day all around you.
#3) CONSIDERATE. We often live our lives as if the whole world revolves around us. Take other people’s situation to heart. Put yourself in others shoes sometimes and then respond appropriately. Remember that everyone has a story, and we need to take the time to get to know people for who they are and where they come from. Consider others feelings, others needs, others fears.
This may overwhelm you, but you can do it! Learn to practice kindness. Be more friendly, more generous and more considerate of others.
We’re reminded in Ephesians 4: “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
We are who we are because of what others have done for us. Because of what God has done for me.
Pay it forward. Practice Kindness.