“If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have time to do something about it.” (Anthony J. D’Angelo)
Are you a whiner? Do you find yourself complaining about everything?
You may be a whiner, or you may work with one. Supernanny.co.uk shares an article for parents on how to stop whining. I think these 6 things can be used for anyone in your office! The comments below each point is mine.
#1) Be Calm and Clear
Don’t react to their kicking, biting, screaming or crying. Keep your head together. Don’t get sucked in to the complaining, it’s easy to do! Take a deep breath and respond to them.
#2) Don’t be Afraid of Discipline, but Don’t Forget Praise
In the workplace, sometimes you need to just say “STOP”. Don’t let them get away with it. Remember there’s a lot more going on in this situation. Try to read between the lines. Affirm them, but don’t enable them to keep whining.
#3) Stop Whining Before It Starts
You should recognize whining patterns in your co-workers. Stop it before they are able to respond. Plan for it, and then address it quickly. If it starts, deal with it immediately.
#4) Pay Attention to Nap Time/Bed Time
While this is so true for kids, it’s also true for adults. Sometimes people are just negative because they aren’t getting the rest they need, they aren’t getting the nutrition they need, they’re not getting the exercise they need. Pay attention to this! It’s amazing what a nap or a little sunshine can do to your perspective.
#5) Cut the Sweets
If you’re a kid, this affects you. As an adult, think of all the things that create a stimulus to you or that bring you down: coffee, alcohol, drugs, overeating, sugar, lack of protein, lack of vitamins, sickness, major illness, chronic illness and fatigue. I could go on and on.
#6) Be Flexible
Sometimes you need to just allow people to whine a little bit. Give them a few minutes to complain, then move on. Again, there’s probably much more going on than you realize. Sometimes you need to cut them some slack.
Do you relate to any of these? I do.
“Man created language to satisfy his deep need to complain” (Lily Tomlin)