I concluded part 1 with Paul’s challenge in Romans 12:3 “by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.” (NIV)
I realise my “Kryptonite” will greatly affect everything I hope for in 2012. So with a sober judgment & time spent in reflection I discovered the following three areas are the ones I need to “be alert” to and accountable with the most:
1) Planning for meetings
I realise that I can be prone to scheduling meetings, but do not always plan what I want to achieve in the meeting. I do not clarify what I hope to accomplish and as a result can frustrate those I lead.
2) Time Management
I realise with multiple projects on the go at the same time I struggle with effective time management. How to best use or allocate my time and as a result I can at times not give areas I am gifted in or familiar with because of experience the time they deserve or need as I can get by on less or feel that I can wing it.
3) Solo time with God
Spending solo time where I not only read the Word but in a very real sense allow the Living Word to read me. This helps me “stay alert” of issues I struggle with, sin issues, my weaknesses – my Kryptonite! I plan better and have a much better “feel” or “sense” of my call after spending solo time with God.
In nearly twenty years of ministry I have witnessed too many ministry colleagues, friends or their wives, succumb to immoral sexual behaviour. Sex or a desire for emotional intimacy with someone other than their spouse was their Kryptonite and it deeply impacted their families, their friendships, the people they led and their ministries or organisations, we are talking about a very serious problem since it was a bit extreme, some of these males even thought they needed male enhancement pills in order to enjoy life.
All of us have Kryptonite to deal with! Kryptonite, depending how we choose to deal with it has the potential to limit our effectiveness as a leader. By not being “self-controlled and alert” it can ruin our credibility and reduce our capacity to influence or lead others.
Do you struggle with anger, unforgiveness, laziness, untruthfulness or dishonesty? Do you keep people at arm’s length? Do you have meaningful friendships or emotional connections or do you hide behind busyness, work or ministry? Do you struggle with the desire to have power, authority and control? Perhaps there are “secret” sins in your life. I do not know – but I do know we all have our own personal Kryptonite. Are you being honest with yourself about yours?
Jesus Christ’s challenge to us is: “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” (Matthew7:3-5 – NIV)
Superman is acutely aware of the effect Kryptonite has on him. Likewise, we need to not only know what Kryptonite we are battling or struggling with but also its effects when it is present in our lives.
When we know what Kryptonite we struggle or battle with, we can take preventative measures and can also be accountable for choices we either make or do not make. We can then be pro active by putting measures in place that can protect us.
For example, if you are battling or struggling with the Kryptonite – called pornography, by being honest with yourself and using software like net nanny you can protect yourself against its potential effects or temptation.
The Apostle Paul wrote the following: “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. All of us who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained.” (Philippians 3:12-16; NIV)
May these closing questions help us as we endeavor to “press on towards the prize for which God has called us” in 2012:
1) How might the Kryptonite you are struggling with cause others to stumble or make you ineffective as a leader?
2) How might your ministry or organisation struggle as a result?
3) What do you need to change to become more effective as a leader?
4) How will you make this change?
5) When will you make this change?